We are prone to think the best parts of us are the seen parts.

Not true. There are beautiful people, but no one wants to be known for only their beauty. People are designed in three parts — body, soul, and Spirit.

Pastor Matthew Stevenson said, “the best part of us is the hidden parts.” The statement was simple and profound.

The soul is our mind, will, and emotions. This is the inner person. Some call the soul our emotive center. The soul realm is the center of our thoughts, decisions, and feelings. We are more than our beauty or our behavior. Don’t judge a book by the cover is still on-point.

It is true — the best parts of our lives are the hidden parts.

Let’s look at some hidden characteristics that make a person more remarkable than their physical appearance.


We either develop good character, or we become known as one.

  • Competency determines what we can do.
  • Commitment determines what we want to do.
  • Character determines what we will do.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Character is higher than intellect.”

Having good character is a hidden trait. Character is the person we are when no one is looking. A person with character is faithful — their word is their bond.

And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your way, you go wrong. (Mathew 5:33–37, The Message)

People of character do the right thing at their own expense, cost, or pain. Why? Because the right thing is always right.

People of character don’t allow circumstances to determine their actions. A person of character will follow through when others use difficulty to excuse their choices.


Resilience is rare. The last 12 months have been very challenging. The challenges of 2020 have made some stronger and others less resilient.

“If you faint in the day of adversity, Your strength is small.” (Proverbs 24:10, NKJV)

Resilience is a form of grit.

Resilience cannot be seen, but the outcomes cannot be hidden. Resilience is the ability to recover from setbacks, adapt to change, and press on in the face of adversity.

Resilience is also flexible when resistance shows up. Resilience does not go with the flow. When the flow stops, resilience keeps moving.


Integrity and character are similar yet different. Integrity is the interaction or outcome of a choice. Integrity is aligning your conduct with what you know to be correct.

Character is the actual condition of the heart. Character deficiencies are a result of a lack of integrity. What would you do if you knew that nobody would ever find out?

Would you steal if you knew no one would ever find it out? Integrity says, “I can’t steal because I can’t live with myself.”

“The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.” (Proverbs 11:3, NKJV)

Integrity is a guide (choice), and character is the result of the choices we make. Integrity is another attribute we cannot see, but the outcomes will never stay uncovered.

Tying it together

The result of tying character, resilience, and integrity together is profound. Someone might be able to beat up one of you, but not both of you. As the saying goes, “A rope made from three strands of cord is hard to break.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12, CEV)

Let’s say a single strand of rope can bear 100 pounds of weight. If we braid three strands of that same rope, it can bear up to 1,000 pounds of weight.

Likewise, when we braid character, resilience, and integrity our outcomes will birth ten-times the results.

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