AMERICANS ARE TIRED
We are hearing it over and over.
Tired of stress. Stress levels — maxed out. Chaos, confusion, and crime are the buzzwords of 2020.
Fear, stress, and worry fill our headlines and our hearts. Our adrenal systems are on overload-emotions are raw.
Stress-related fatigue is chronic across America.
We must ditch the drama and chide the internal chaos.
It is imperative that we learn coping skills that pin stress and anxiety to the mat.
We must shift the narrative from negative to positive and from reactive to responsive.
Let’s turn it around.
SIX HUMAN NEEDS
The six human needs will resource our soul with strength. Tony Robbins is best known for coining the six human needs.
Here are the six:
- Certainty — A sense of security, safety, and comfort in the world
- Uncertainty (Variety) — A sense of change, interest, and adventure
- Significance — A sense of uniqueness, individuality and being special
- Love & Connection — A sense of acceptance, belonging and support
- Growth — A desire to learn, grow and develop
- Contribution — The desire to give to those around us
The six emotional needs are profound and have served as a foundation for self-discovery and personal achievement for several decades.
THE IMPORTANCE OF HUMAN NEEDS
Emotions are how we tick. We all have a desire to experience emotional wellness. Understanding these six human needs paves the way for greater emotional health.
When the human needs are active in us, we thrive in our existence.
All six human needs flow through us in different seasons.
When all six needs are operational, a person will live a happier life. Where we lack meeting our emotional needs we will feel dissatisfied, frustrated — searching for something.
It is crucial to know which of these human needs makes you soar.
THE IMPORTANCE OF SIGNIFICANCE
Significance is the need to feel special, meaningful, and to feel needed.
Everyone has an innate desire for meaning, purpose, and direction.
This leads to significance. We are all made different and have unique emotional needs.
Some people find significance by achieving success, buying sizeable houses, beautiful cars, and joining the country club. Others feel significant by dressing uniquely, counting their Facebook “likes” or tattooing their body.
No one can convince us how significant we are. That comes from within. We call it self-worth. What we think of ourselves is essential.
What we feel about ourselves will determine how we treat others. To know we are loved — we accept ourselves. When we accept ourselves, we experience peace.
When we lose a sense of significance, we lose our emotional balance.
Losing a sense of significance is damaging. It bombards our minds with thoughts and self-destructive behavior can take over.
We turn to substances to make us feel better about ourselves. These substitutes include things like; alcohol, drugs, porn, sex, food, etc.
Searching for significance can turn dark or self-defeating.
“You can feel more significant by achieving something by building something by learning something or even by tearing other people down. They are all legitimate ways to fulfill the need for significance. The need for significance can help you achieve more, do more, and become the person you desire to be. — An In-Depth Exploration Of The Six Human Needs Shaping Your Life.
Maybe we set our significance on our ability to drink more than our friends. Or perhaps we are significant because we slept with more girls than anyone we know.
A long-term sense of insignificance is damaging to our emotions. When our significance turns narcissistic, we use our life for the wrong purpose. Therefore, it is vital to discover the human needs that satisfy the soul. Emotional wellness is vital to a well-balanced life.
When the tank of our human needs is full, it is satisfying. We experience an extra skip in our steps. A sense of significance increases our self-esteem and adds confidence. When we are confident and full of life, our relationships are vibrant.
People need us, and we need people. There are days our emotional IQ is on point. There are the other days where we feel alone and insignificant.
We are both needy and needed.
A sense of insignificance negatively affects our self-esteem. Behaviors such as timidity and a lack of confidence arrest our personality and negatively affects our emotional response.
The ultimate significance in life comes not from something external, but something internal. It comes from a sense of self-esteem, which is not something we can ever get from someone else. People can tell you you’re beautiful, smart, intelligent, the best, or can tell you-you are the most horrible human being on earth — but what matters is what you think about yourself.
When we capture a sense of our own significance, our life turns epic.
Most people enhance their sense of significance from outside sources or achievements. It’s like an emotional feeding tube. That is OK.
But there is a greater way.
“Know thyself” is profound. To know your personality type, shape score, and strength 2.0 score is great. But knowing yourself is better.
Knowing your yes. Even greater — to know your “why.” Why God created us and why we do the things we do.
When we know our “why” and our “what” we discover a hidden significance — our internal gauge of greatness.
We build significance within when we know who we are and do what we love.
Significance is a daily download when we discover our purpose and pursue it
ONE STEP HIGHER
We are human beings. God created our soul. Our soul has three components-mind, will, and emotions.
People are spirit beings having a human experience.
Everyone has a spirit. We have spiritual needs.
Even Tony Robbins slots growth and connection into the “spirit” category.
Finding our significance from God and in serving God is the highest sense of significance possible.
God, our creator, formed and fashioned us.
That makes everyone significant.
For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me When as yet there were none of them. How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I counted them, they would be more in number than the sand; When I awake, I am still with You. (Psalm 139:7–14, NKJV)
People who know their creator are unique. We find our significance in God and fulfilling God’s purpose.
We all have a divine intuition to excel in life.
God created us for dominion.
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” (Genesis 1:27, NKJV).
God never intended for humans to dominate one another. God created us with the ability to rule over things on the earth. This dominion is for every human.
It is God’s ability on us to worship, achieve, and prosper.
The highest sense of significance comes from knowing our creator.
And that is a sense of significance everyone needs.
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