Are you special?
If so, what makes you unique? Is it your beauty, or your smarts and successes? Are you special because you’re driven and grinding out life by working 60-plus hours per week? Are your smarts, grind, and beauty a search for significance?
Maybe you don’t realize the inner struggle to establish your own significance. So, what is the definition of significance? Significance is the need to feel special, meaningful, and needed. People need us, and we need people. There are days our emotional IQ is on point, and there are other days when we feel alone and insignificant.
Trying to discover your significance through compliments, accolades, and “Facebook likes” is similar to taking a swim in the bathtub — futile and unsatisfying.
Let’s twist an adage; are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Many are. Some people find significance by achieving success, purchasing houses and cars, or joining a high-dollar fitness club. Others feel significant by clothing, slimming down, or tattooing their body. I have no ax to grind here – to each their own. Does finding significance come from outstanding achievements and accomplishing more than everyone else?
Yes and no. Achieving great things and accomplishing unusual feats can bring a sense of significance, but is that the only way to feel to experience a sense of importance? No.
Significance does not evolve from something external
The ultimate significance in life doesn’t evolve from something external but internal — which never comes from someone else. Does a stay-at-home mom have a high level of significance? Yes. Does a janitor at the local church have significance? Yes. Some people will minimize the janitor and the mom who desires to raise her kids, but their opinion cannot mitigate or steal the significance of the mom and janitor.
Tony Robbins and others have established six primary needs determining how humans tick. Significance is number 3 on the list. When the six human needs are active in us, we thrive in our existence. When all six needs are operational, a person will experience a happier life. When we lack meeting our emotional needs, we will feel dissatisfied and frustrated — searching for something.
Your significance is not subject to whether or not people believe in you
Medium writer Christopher D. Connors says, “If you succumb to fears and worries on your journey, take solace because the world’s most talented and successful people find themselves in moments of doubt, just like you and me.”
What matters most is what God thinks about you and what you feel about yourself. People who know their creator are unique and find their significance in God and fulfilling God’s purpose. Most people enhance their sense of significance from outside sources or achievements. It’s like an emotional feeding tube.
The highest sense of significance comes from knowing our creator, God. God skillfully fashioned us, and that makes everyone significant.
For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me When as yet there were none of them. How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I counted them, they would be more in number than the sand; When I awake, I am still with You.
(Psalm 139:7–14, NKJV)
Discovering your God-given significance will be a catalyst for your spiritual growth
Genuine significance evolves from knowing your Creator loves you. Babies indeed fail to grow emotionally when they suffer from a lack of love.
If a child belongs to a poor caring environment, they may find it difficult to recognize emotions and social norms. In this way, he will be unable to know how to behave with others accordingly.
“You can feel more significant by achieving something by building something, by learning something, or even by tearing other people down. They are all legitimate ways to fulfill the need for significance, and the need for significance can help you achieve more, do more, and become the person you desire to be.
An In-Depth Exploration Of The Six Human Needs Shaping Your Life. – to know your personality type, shape score, and strength 2.0 score is excellent. But knowing yourself is better. You are learning your yes. Even more significant — is to know your “why — why God created us. When you know your “why” and your “what,” you’ll discover a hidden significance.
“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be but to find out who we already are and become it.”
— Steven Pressfield.
Significance is an automatic download when you discover your God-given purpose.
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