The ’60s ushered in a sexual revolution.
Sex, drugs and “rock n roll’ was the mantra of that decade.
In our generation, sexual pleasure is linked to our individuality and our moral construes.
This decade has revealed the sexual abuse of powerful people. We have witnessed the evolving #metoo movement, and multiple websites connecting people for sexual encounters. We have also witnessed websites connecting others to commit adultery together.
Everyone has a choice and an opinion. My opinion is loyalty to your spouse or lover is the best and safest way to enjoy sex.
Getting married was once about having sex for the first time. But now we get married to stop having sex with multiple partners.
Not everyone stops.
Sexual struggles and adultery have been around for thousands of years.
Let’s pick up a historical story about adultery.
“In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. One evening, David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof, he saw a woman bathing. The woman was exquisite, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, ‘She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite’. Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, ‘I am pregnant” (2 Samuel 11:1–5 NKJV).
Some of you recognize this story. The story of David and Bathsheba is famous in the Bible. This is David’s greatest failure as a leader.
On a sleep-challenged night, King David takes a stroll on the roof of his palace. This little walk changed David’s life in a big way. Prior to the walk, everything in David’s world was fantastic. David is seeing the defeat of his enemies. His army is growing in size and skill. He is known throughout the land.
An unseen enemy
David falls prey to an enemy in his soul. Lust. A lust that ends in adultery and murder. David comes face to face with the greatest enemy of his personal life. The enemy is silent, yet deadly. David drops his guard and makes a devastating choice to sleep with a married woman. And to make matters worse, he sleeps with the wife of one of his soldiers. This choice leads David to difficult consequences. The most difficult of his entire life.
How can this happen?
The wrong place
David was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He should have been on the battlefield with his troops. Instead of conquering his enemies, he is at home conquering another man’s wife.
It is no different for us today. There are right places and the right times and there are wrong places and wrong times. If you spend time spent in the wrong place, the wrong things will happen. For men who have a mistress called a computer, you are in the wrong place. For others, you find yourself drawn to someone on your job. You drop by the break room too often, hoping to make contact. This is the wrong place.
Putting yourself in the right place is fifty percent of winning your inner battles.
Your choices reveal your heart.
So, where are you?
Who are you hanging with?
A fatal attraction
David makes a very poor decision and calls the woman to his palace and his bed. As King, he possesses unquestioned authority. David commits adultery. Adultery is vicious and takes many prisoners.
This is a fatal attraction for David. A beautiful married woman caught his eye and now owns his heart.
“Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul” (Proverbs 6:32, NKJV).
“For by means of a harlot A man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life” (Proverbs 6:26, NKJV).
What could have David done differently? The Bible offers one way to prevail over sexual temptation: Run from it.
The Bible also commands us to “flee sexual immorality and youthful lust” (II Tim 2:22, NKJV).
The challenge is no different today
There are temptations that lead us to wrong choices. We live in a time where adultery is rampant. Arranged sexual encounters are normal. We hear very few stories about the real pain of divorce, the shame of pornography, or the consequences of broken families.
We do not have to believe in the Bible to agree that adultery destroys families, steals dreams, and shatters self-esteem. There is a way out.
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so you can endure it” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NKJV).
Just remember it’s natural to suffer temptation, and it’s human to be weak, but only you can resist the temptation to fall into adultery.
Keep your marriage healthy
1. Take the cues
- People who are willing to cheat will drop subtle hints. The greatest suggestion is to distance yourself from that person. And never take the bait to be alone with them.
2. Avoid the temptation
- This suggestion is familiar to the last one. You must take extreme measures to protect yourself. Avoid all unnecessary conversation. Avoid eye to eye contact, and if possible avoid conversation that stimulates wrong desire.
3. Admit your weakness
- Confess your weakness. Call a friend. See a counselor, or admit it to your spouse. This exposes your inner struggle and offers open accountability.
4. Draw social media boundaries
- Social media can be dangerous for some. Connecting with sexual partners of the past stirs our emotions. Establishing social media accountability creates a safe place. One way to stay safe is to share a Facebook page with your spouse.
5. Have a single eye for your spouse
- Learn to receive sexual pleasure from only your spouse. Some say this is crazy. It truly isn’t. We can learn to receive all our sexual stimulation from only one person.
Remember, it’s natural to suffer temptation, and it’s human to be weak, but only you can resist sexual temptation.
Sex, drugs, and rock and roll are still here. And so is sexual purity.
You need to take a midnight walk. Go for it.
It takes two to tango and you do that with only one person.
Thank you for reading this post.
A portion of this post was first published at https://medium.com/publishous/5-full-proof-ways-to-skip-the-next-sexual-revolution-db279a4e20c4